When most of us enter into marriage, we go in thinking that it will last forever. After all, it’s a beautiful, romantic idea to think that we’ll spend forever happily with one person, raising children and growing old with them. No one goes into a marriage thinking it will end!
Unfortunately, reality often is not as sweet as our dreams. We sometimes find ourselves in marriages that are not going as planned, or in marriages where we’re forced to suspect our spouse of doing something unthinkable.
If you suspect your wife of cheating, the first thing to do is to remain calm. This can be a devastating time in the life of any couple, especially if you didn’t see it coming. The reality is that over 50% of women admit to having committed infidelity in some relationship they’ve had – and 14% admit to straying at least once during their marriage. Those are scary numbers for a husband wondering if his wife might be up to no good!
But if you just suspect – this may not be good enough. You need to find out for certain if your wife has been unfaithful. Here, we’ll give you some practical tips for finding out if your wife may be cheating. Regardless of the outcome, you’ll want to know.
1. Pay attention to any differences in their schedule
The first old school way to catch a cheating wife, is, of course, to pay close attention to how her schedule may have changed. It’s not just “staying late at work” that’s used as an excuse for cheating anymore. She may say she has a yoga class or date with her friends. She may just be getting out of the house more at odd hours. For example, if she likes to spend Saturday afternoons at home but all of a sudden she has a different schedule, that may be cause for worry. If your wife starts being absent from the house a lot more than she used to, this may be a sign that she is being unfaithful.
2. Follow them
Another traditional way to catch a cheating mate is to follow them when they’ve gone somewhere that you suspect they may be lying about. Of course, this isn’t easy to do and we wouldn’t necessarily recommend it because it can get tricky. Especially if you live in a small town, it may be impossible to follow your spouse without them finding out about it. Sometimes, though, you have to know if they are telling the truth and the only way you’ll find that out is to actually physically see where they are going.
3. Listen to their phone calls
Have you noticed that your wife tends to get very secretive and leave the room when she gets a phone call? If so, this may be a sign of cheating. Next time your wife leaves the room for a call, follow her to a place where you’ll be able to hear the call. You may hear a voice you don’t recognize.
4. Snoop through her phone and run a reverse number check on any unfamiliar numbers
Did you know that you may be able to find out identifying information about someone just from a cell phone number? With a service like CheckThem.com, you can enter in a phone number and voila – you’ll get details you never knew you could. If you find a lot of unfamiliar numbers on your wife’s phone (or just one unfamiliar number that pops up again and again), use an online service to track the identify of the phone owner. You may be shocked by what you find.
5. Use spyware to monitor their phone
Unfortunately, it may get to a point where you have no choice but to monitor your wife’s phone. If that happens, though, there are a lot of online services that can help you. In the age of the Internet, almost everything is accessible online – including your wife’s activities. Use a service like FlexiSpy to track movements on her phone, such as incoming and outgoing texts and emails. It’ll be difficult to have to do this, but it may be the only way you’ll know if she is cheating.
6. Hire a PI
This is an expensive option, and one that a lot of people may not be able to afford. For that reason, we recommend some of the other methods on this list – especially the affordable online methods. That said, though, sometimes you may want to hire professional help. Find a PI that specializes in cheating spouses to follow your wife and see what she’s up to. Even if you follow her yourself, you’ll probably have work and kids and maybe other obligations. A PI can stay on the case until you are certain of what is going on with your wife.
7. Ask her
Our last tip certainly isn’t going to be anyone’s favorite, but it is the most direct. If your other methods have failed, maybe your wife isn’t having an affair. That would be the best possible news! Maybe, however, you’ve just failed to catch her in the act. If something is still nagging at you, even after doing the research into whether your wife could be cheating, the best, most direct thing to do would be to ask her. You may not get the answer you want. You may even cause a fight. But suspecting a spouse of cheating isn’t something that can easily be overlooked, so if something is pushing at you to find out, do everything you can to ensure you do.
It can be a really sad day if you suspect your spouse of cheating. Unfortunately, sometimes, these things unexpectedly happen and the best you can do is deal with it and move on. Before you do anything, though, you’ll want to be certain that what you suspect is true. Use our tips to help you discover if your spouse is cheating – then take a moment and go from there.